Friendship

Episode 015

Ep 015: Part 2 of Book Review, How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie

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Show note:

Welcome to part 2 of this Book Review of How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie. This is the book of all books on being Social. It was one of the books that started the self-help book industry. Dale Carnegie lived 1888-1955. In the book, Dale Carnegie organizes his advice into three categories:

Win people to your way of thinking

  1. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, “you’re wrong.”
  2. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
  3. Begin in a friendly way.
  4. Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
  5. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
  6. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
  7. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
  8. Be sympathetic to the other person’s ideas and desires.
  9. Appeal to the nobler motives.
  10. Dramatize your ideas.

Be a leader

  1. Throw down a challenge.
  2. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
  3. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
  4. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
  5. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
  6. Let the other person save face.
  7. Praise the slightest and every improvement. Be “lavish in your praise.”
  8. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
  9. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
  10. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

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Episode 014

Ep 014: Part 1 of 2 | Book Review, How To Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie

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Show note:

Book Review of How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie. This is the book of all books on being Social. It was one of the books that started the self-help book industry. Dale Carnegie lived 1888-1955. In the book, Dale Carnegie organizes his advice into three categories:

Becoming a friendlier person

  1. Don’t criticize, condom or complain.
  2. Give honest, sincere apparition.
  3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
  4. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  5. Smile
  6. A person’s name is to that person the most important sound in any language.
  7. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  8. Talk in terms of the other person’s interest.
  9. Make the other person feel important – and do so sincerely.
  10. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

 

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Episode 013

Ep 013: Social Profiles

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Show notes:

“Share items that are relevant to the group and provides value in every post. When you do this you will get noticed and you will build trust with those who are there.” Pat Flynn, Will it Fly

Online groups are a great place to connect with others and build relationships. I have made many friends through online communities and it all starts with sharing value that matters to them.

Your online profile is were everything starts. It’s were people go to learn more about you. They can learn something about you from what you post but they learn more on the profile page. You want your profiles to showcase what you love about life and about yourself. It’s like the cloths you put on in the morning, They give something others can relate with you without needed to say anything. It’s the first introduction people get so make it something you’re proud of.

We have profile on every social platform. They give others opportunities to relate and connect with you.

Themes are core values. They touch almost everything we do. When we are clear on our themes they make it easy for others to help you find joy.

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Episode 012

Ep: 012 Social Flow

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Show notes:

 

Social Flow:

  1. Introduction
  2. Establishing Value
  3. Invite
  4. Exceeding expectations
  5. Staying in contact

 

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Episode 011

Ep 011: The 5 Love Languages

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“I am amazed how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday.” Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages

The 5 languages are:

  1. Words of Affirmation
  2. Acts of Service
  3. Receiving Gifts
  4. Quality Time
  5. Physical Touch

“Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself.” 
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages Singles Edition

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Episode 010

Ep 010: Making Friends

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Show notes:

“Names are the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

Developing friendships involve finding a connection, inviting them into a part of your life, and communicating your expectations.

Finding a connection is looking for something you have in common. It’s complimenting them on something you appreciate. It’s talking about a subject you both find interesting.

Invite them to do something with you. Invite them to see a movie, Go out for a drink, work on your car, run at the gym, or anything you both can share and do together.

Communicate your expectations. If you want them to meet you at an exact time tell them. Clarify what you think they may be expecting from you.

We find happiness in the moment by remembering the things that make us the most grateful.

 

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Episode 009

Ep 009: Types of Conversations

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Show Notes:

This podcast is a wild card. We had a few things we wanted to talk about last week but didn’t end up finishing and its okay and as such, we will be discussing how we handle negative people.

Jason handles negative people by listening to them and making sure they feel heard. He commonly asks questions and repeats their responses. He then also looks for something he can complement them on. After a few minutes, he looks for other people to introduce them to. Similar strategies provide value to the person and leave them on a good note.

Josh shares how we try to fix things when all we need to do is listen. What makes things better is connections. We listen and ask questions to show we care.

Small talk opens people up because it sets the mood. We can share what we are struggling with to show we can empathize and to subtly provide some advice.

You just don’t tell them what to do, you instead share what you have done, what has worked/ works in your case, and may do in the future.

Recommendations:

How do you share something you are struggling with without being negative about it? (For ideas, please review episode 011 the 5 Love Languages)

In different group settings, we act very differently, (for why, please review episode 006 The Five Social Roles).

Always start with what you are grateful for because you must be grateful for who you are before we can become the person we want to be.

“The mighty lion toys with the mouse that crosses his path—any other reaction would mar his fearsome reputation.”
― Robert Greene, The 48 Laws of Power

Allow yourself to be passionate.

YouTube Video “It’s not about the nail” https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg

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Episode 008

Ep 008: Working The Room

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Show Notes:

“When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret.” -by Shannon L. Alder

Working the room means making friends and influencing people in a social setting, since if you walk into the room for the first time, you probably don’t know anyone, there are two approaches you can take but they start the same. One is introducing yourself to others that have the same emotional energy you do, welcoming them to the group,make sure you talk confidently which is why you talk about what you value. As you talk to people you build your confidence and emotional energy.

An introvert will continue speaking one on one with people throughout the room. While an extrovert will find someone they can really connect with and together they will grow a circle around them as they entertain and make people laugh.

Small talk is crucial for building rapport. It’s not about what you are talking about it’s about the emotions you are sending across those empathy waves. You find out how they are feeling and what they are willing to talk about through small talk.

What to talk about

Talk about the things you value. Talk about the things that the group is coming together about. Share your life stories that make you laugh or talk about something that you learned recently. Talk about what you are passionate about. If you can talk about it they’ll listen if you appear interested in listening in turn.

“If you see something beautiful in someone speak it” -by Ruthie Lindsey

Debating a topic disrespectfully. It’s not about proving the other person wrong if your intention is to make friends. The good way to debate is to point out the things you agree on and pose questions on things you don’t agree on.

Avoid talking about the things that make you depressed or anxious. It’s all about the emotion you want to share and talk about things that bring the feeling to your memory. If all you talk about is depressing than that’s all you are going to find and experience in your life.

We all have bad days and we do need some time to share our frustrations. However make sure you show gratitude for them to listen to you and strive to share something you are passionate about in the future.

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Episode 007

Ep 007: Social Strategy

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Show Notes:

You want to have a few things in mind before walking into a room to converse and connect, and that is having a Social Strategy.

There are three parts to developing a social strategy:

  1. Knowing your purpose
  2. Understanding your audience
  3. Having a message you want to share

Purpose; is knowing why you are showing up to this group. Why are you wanting to go to the event, party, or group get together?

“WHY? Asking why is the most important question you can ever ask yourself or your company. Knowing your why empowers you to define both your vision and goals. Knowing your why also makes it easier to say yes or no to every decision.” ~Spencer Taggart, Social Media Marketing Director

Audience; is understanding who you are connecting with. What are their values? What do you have in common with them? Why are they coming to this event? How do they like connecting with other people? What type of dress will people be wearing at the event? What is the main value that is bringing everyone together?

When picking the audience you want to join look for groups that share your values. It’s hard to connect with someone when you don’t share common values.

Message; What is the message you want to share? What are your strengths? What do you want other people to know about you? What values do you want them to know you love?

An example of message; Jason’s underlining message is sharing his stories to inspire. He looks for opportunities to inspire and aid people on the path to live their dreams.

The more excitement and passion you can share the more value you are giving to the people around you.

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Episode 006

Ep 006: The Five Social Roles

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Show Notes:

“Until you truly let go, until you truly form humility, can you find empathy and in that empathy you find contact and in that contact you find out who you truly are, and who the people are around you.” By Jimmy Nelson, author of the book Before They Pass Away.

“Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.” -By Rick Warren, The Purpose Driven Life

In this episode we are talking about the 5 social roles we play in group settings.

The 5 social roles are

  1. Organizer
  2. Speaker
  3. Wingman
  4. Wallflower
  5. Loner

The Organizer is the guy or girl who brought the group together.

The Speaker is the most enthusiastic person in the room. They are the entertainer in the group.

The Wingman is the guy or girl who is the most emotionally connected person to the wingman. He or she helps supports the entertainment.

The Wallflower are the viewers of the group. They speak quietly with the people next to them.

The loner is the person who is easily caught in his or her own mental chaos. They are thinking to much of themselves positively or negatively, and as such they are trying to become something they are not guaranteed to succeed doing.

Listen to the Podcast PLAY THEORY for reference for the concept of “Yes and” the conversation.

You don’t need to be a speaker or organizer to feel connected to the group. You only need to accept yourself the way you are and look for ways to welcome others to the group.

The difference between the loner and the wallflower is their social strategy. It’s a matter of thinking about how to welcome others than thinking about how afraid or confused you may feel.

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